Why talk?

If you’re suffering from testosterone deficiency it isn’t just your problem, it also affects your partner and your entire relationship.

Sex is a key part of a man’s life, so when you are having difficulties getting and/or maintaining an erection, you may withdraw physically. When this happens, you may avoid showing affection towards your partner because you don’t want it to lead to sex. You may even withdraw emotionally in fear of causing additional worries to your partner. However, this can make your partner feel rejected, unloved and sad, as they may think that you don’t find them attractive any more or that you’ve found someone else.

A better solution is to be open about it and tell your partner that you’re suffering from symptoms of low testosterone. This will make you both feel better as it will remove feelings of guilt and blame. It’s a team effort, not something you need to do all alone.

Talking to your doctor

CONCERNED ABOUT TALKING TO YOUR DOCTOR? Read our tips on talking to your doctor about your symptoms

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Talk to your partner

Choose a time when you’re both rested, relaxed - and sober! Make sure you won’t be distracted or interrupted.

#1. Begin simply: “I’m worried about my part in our love life”- or show your partner this website

#2. Explain the symptoms you are experiencing and what you are worried about

#3. Tell your partner what/how you feel, so they can sympathise

#4. Reassure your partner that you’re not blaming them and that you still care for them

#5. Explain what you’d like to do, so they know you’ve a solution in mind

#6. Tell your partner what you need them to do, so they are aware of how to support you


  1. Consider how low testosterone has affected you and your partner.
  2. Recall how your sexual life have changed since your erection problems began.
  3. Speak to your doctor as soon as possible because low testosterone may be an indication for metabolic dysfunction too.